I Choose Today...

I Choose Today to Use My Words for Love

I recently read a story about balcony and basement people. Balcony people cheer you on and use their words to lift you up. Basement people, on the other hand, bring you down with their words. When we read this description, certain people come to mind. We can all be balcony people, but we can easily become basement people too. Sometimes, it is those closest to us that we treat as basement people because we feel secure in their love and lash out. I know I need to do better with that. The balcony/basement analogy is one that will stick with me. Even when those closest to us act as basement people, our response as balcony people can stop the cycle of destruction in our relationships. This is what true love is, according to 1 Corinthians 13: “Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs… It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” Now, translate these principles into how we respond to those we love. Replace the word

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I Choose Today to be an Apprentice

A few weeks ago, I discussed the importance of being Jesus’ apprentices. But what does it mean to be an apprentice? Historically, apprenticeships required individuals to meet several key expectations to ensure they successfully learned and mastered their chosen trade: Commitment and loyalty to their master Obedience and respect in following instructions/rules Willingness to learn and spend time developing their trade Hard work and diligence even in menial tasks Perseverance and patience with challenges Good behavior and ethical conduct Personal sacrifice and full commitment to training These expectations ensured that apprentices could eventually become skilled practitioners and possibly masters themselves, contributing to the continuity and quality of the craft. So how does the historical account of what an apprentice looked like correspond to being Jesus’ apprentice? Jesus told us in Luke 9:23-24 what is required: “Then He said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be My follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross daily, and follow Me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for My sake, you will save it.” Let’s break it down into a few key

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I Choose Today to be an Effective Listener

As you may or may not know, I was not afforded (nor was prepared) the opportunity to attend college when I was younger. So, during Covid, I took the opportunity to accomplish that goal. I was on a mission to get my classes done as quickly and efficiently as possible. So when I saw the class Effective Listening, I thought it would be an easy class. After all, I was a pretty good listener. Boy was I wrong! This class was so hard, but yet so rewarding. This class taught me several crucial aspects of effective listening. First, it emphasized the importance of being present in a conversation. Second, it highlighted the need to listen for a deep understanding of the speaker’s message, both verbally and non-verbally. Third, it stressed the significance of listening with compassion and empathy. Moreover, the class taught me to approach listening with intentionality. Demonstrating active listening through body language and short responses became a key takeaway. So many times, we listen only to voice our opinions, come up with a rebuttal, or to pretend we are listening but really not interested (which is usually obvious to the speaker/talker).  Sometimes we get angry or insulted by

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I Choose Today to change my clothes…

God’s Word is FULL of practical principles for living everyday life. In Paul’s letter to the Colossians, God illustrates how we are to receive and treat others with whom we come in contact. Paul instructs, “Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.” How counter-culture are these instructions? Where being offensive, offended, and hostile are all the rage (no pun intended), God instructs us once again to go against the grain and do the unexpected: Make allowances for one another; In this text, “make allowances for one another” means being understanding and forgiving of each other’s faults, shortcomings, or mistakes. It suggests a willingness to be patient and considerate, recognizing that nobody is perfect and that people may occasionally err or fall short of expectations. It encourages giving forgiveness, grace, and mercy to one another. Forgive: In the context of the text, “forgive” means to pardon or let go

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