I Choose Today...

I Choose Today Walk Through Grief With God’s Comfort and Wisdom

Grief is always associated with trauma in some way that can be triggered at any time. Recently I was on a call with a couple of ladies and we were discussing a senseless act of violence that just occurred. One of the ladies revealed that this event triggered her to relive a traumatic experience she had 30 years ago, due to senseless violence, in that same town. She explained how she felt the same feelings of trauma and grief she felt all those years ago. Through our conversation, she realized she had the tools of wisdom and knowledge now to navigate this difficult time. She knows where her strength comes from: the Lord (Isaiah 41:10). She has learned that she is not a prisoner of her trauma, the feelings of fear that accompany her experiences. It is only through walking the valley of grief (Psalms 23:4) does she now have the tools to overcome this trauma, this grief. She is stronger, even in moments like this one, where the feelings come back like a tidal wave of emotions. Hearing her story reminded me of my own journey with grief, which has taught me similar lessons about God’s presence and strength.

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I Choose Today to Celebrate His Legacy

Today, my son would have turned 31 years old. Though his life was brief, it left an eternal imprint on my heart. The memories I have of him are tender, precious, and irreplaceable. Losing him to SIDS was a heartbreak that shook my soul, but his life continues to shape the way I love, live, and trust God. Grief is a journey, one that doesn’t truly end but evolves as time passes. What I’ve learned along the way is that God meets us in the middle of our sorrow. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” This has been my experience: God’s presence has been my refuge, His promises my anchor. As I reflect on my son’s life today, I am reminded of the lessons his brief time on earth taught me. His life, though short, revealed the beauty and depth of love—a love that doesn’t end when life on this earth does. His legacy reminds me to cherish the small, fleeting moments and to trust God with every step, even when the road feels impossibly hard. Grief has a way of opening our hearts to see the world

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I Choose Today to Be Encapsulated by His Love

Have you ever walked into a house where bread is baking? The aroma fills every corner, and before long, you find yourself drawn to the kitchen, hungry for a taste. There’s something irresistible about the smell of fresh bread—it’s comforting, inviting, and it stirs up an appetite you didn’t even know you had. Now, imagine this: when the loaf comes out of the oven, its aroma intensifies. But it’s when the bread is broken that the true depth of its aroma is released, filling the air and drawing everyone in. It’s as if the bread is saying, This is who I truly am. Taste and see. That, my friend, is a picture of Jesus. In John 6:35, Jesus declares, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.” He offers us spiritual sustenance, a satisfaction that only He can give. When He walked this earth, His life was a sweet aroma, inviting everyone into a deeper relationship with God. But it wasn’t until His body—like bread—was broken for us that we could fully experience the depth of His love. At the Last Supper, Jesus broke bread

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I Choose Today to Cling to Our Jesus

When we are going through suffering, pain, loss, tragedy, trauma, it can seem like there is no hope, no way past this pain, no end. And maybe one of the worst feelings of all is feeling like we are alone. I am intimately acquainted with all of these emotions; all of these feelings. I know what it feels like to be in the waters of grief. A friend of mine explained grief this way, “Grief is like waves; sometimes the waves are low and just tickle our feet, but other times the waves are so high that they nearly drown us.” When I lost my son to SIDS, the waves of grief were relentless. Some days, I could only manage to whisper His name through the tears. But even then, I knew I wasn’t alone. What do we do with all these overwhelming emotions and the ache of feeling alone? We call out to the One who walks with us. Call to the One who bore our suffering on the cross. Our Jesus. There is a song called Our Jesus, by Amanda Cook (link below). In the chorus she sings, “Oh, how gracious is the God who came to us

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I Choose Today to Not Fear: part 2

Last time we were here, we discussed fear. I mentioned what a friend of mine said, “fear says can’t, but hope says can.” But why is it, by even knowing this, we get stuck on fearing over hoping? We have all heard what the letters of FEAR stand for – False Evidence Appearing Real. Sit with that for a moment, the evidence we imagine is false; however when we think on it so much, it seems to become real! One of the ways we can play the fear game is by using conjecture and “what-ifs.” What if I don’t get that job? What if I get into an accident? What if God doesn’t answer my prayer or answers it in the way I want? What if I don’t get better? I find when I play the “what-if” game, my fear grows and grows. Even though there is no evidence for the fear, it is made more real by thinking about all the worst case scenarios. Another thing that happens as a result of what-ifs is it steals our ability to dream, to hope, to thrive! Just like the story mentioned last time about the spies who let fear rob them

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