I Choose Today...

I Choose Today to Ask Why

I am a project manager by trade. One of my favorite things to do when faced with an unknown challenge is to find the root cause.  Then I can strategize and make a plan to solve the problem. Project management methodology has several ways to find the root cause, but my favorite is the 5 Whys. The 5 Whys involves repeatedly asking ‘why’ when faced with a problem, aiming to uncover the root cause by moving beyond surface-level symptoms. This method not only applies in professional settings but also holds significance in our personal interactions. Let’s face it, we tend to judge the symptom rather than finding out the root cause of the symptom. For example, serval weeks ago, I told you about a gentleman I met who found himself addicted to drugs and living on the street. When we encounter people who are living that reality, we tend to judge them instead of getting to know the why: the root of their pain. God knew the root cause of people’s problems; the reason for their despair, hopelessness, animosity: sin and the separation from God because of the sin. But God had compassion on His creation, so He had a

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I Choose Today to be an Effective Listener

As you may or may not know, I was not afforded (nor was prepared) the opportunity to attend college when I was younger. So, during Covid, I took the opportunity to accomplish that goal. I was on a mission to get my classes done as quickly and efficiently as possible. So when I saw the class Effective Listening, I thought it would be an easy class. After all, I was a pretty good listener. Boy was I wrong! This class was so hard, but yet so rewarding. This class taught me several crucial aspects of effective listening. First, it emphasized the importance of being present in a conversation. Second, it highlighted the need to listen for a deep understanding of the speaker’s message, both verbally and non-verbally. Third, it stressed the significance of listening with compassion and empathy. Moreover, the class taught me to approach listening with intentionality. Demonstrating active listening through body language and short responses became a key takeaway. So many times, we listen only to voice our opinions, come up with a rebuttal, or to pretend we are listening but really not interested (which is usually obvious to the speaker/talker).  Sometimes we get angry or insulted by

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