I Choose Today to Rest in Being Loved and Secure

As I shared in this week’s episode of the I Choose Today podcast, there is a truth about our identity in Christ that many of us struggle to fully trust: we are securely loved by God. After learning that our identity is received, not achieved, that we can rest from striving, and that we are chosen and known, a quieter question often rises in the heart: Will He keep loving me?

Many of us have known love that changed. Love that depended on behavior. Love that came close when we were doing well and pulled back when we weren’t. So we carry that pattern into our relationship with God, assuming His love might fluctuate too. But Scripture tells us something very different. It says, “God is love.” Love is not something He occasionally expresses. It is His nature. He cannot depart from who He is. God does not wake up one day feeling less loving, nor does He ration love according to our spiritual performance. If God stopped loving, He would stop being Himself, and that cannot happen.

When we read 1 Corinthians 13, we often think about how we should love others. But if God is love, then this passage also shows us what His love toward us is like. Love is patient, which means God is patient with our process. Love is kind, which means His posture toward us is kindness, not harshness. Love does not keep a record of wrongs, so God is not building a case file against us. Love always perseveres and never fails, which means His love does not walk away when things get messy. That is the love we are living inside of; His love.

Scripture also says, “Perfect love casts out fear.” Fear of disappointing Him. Fear of losing Him. Fear of not being enough. Fear thrives where love feels uncertain. But when love is secure, fear has nowhere to stay. As we begin to receive God’s love as it truly is, steady, patient, not withdrawing, fear starts to loosen its grip.

Many of us struggle to trust this because we learned love that felt fragile. Approval came when we performed well. Affection shifted with behavior. But God’s love is not shaped by human experience; it is rooted in His unchanging nature. Romans 8 tells us nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus. Not failure. Not weakness. Not distance. Nothing.

This doesn’t mean we never feel far from God. Our feelings about His nearness can change. But our position in His love does not. There is a difference between emotional distance and relational distance. Jesus says no one can snatch us out of His hand. We are not holding onto Him, hoping not to slip. He is holding onto us.

Living securely loved doesn’t remove obedience; it changes its source. Obedience flows from security, not fear. It looks like coming to God sooner instead of hiding, praying honestly instead of carefully, and trusting that His heart toward us has not shifted. Our identity is not built on our consistency, but on His unchanging nature.

So today, I choose to rest in being loved and secure. And I pray you do, too.